Two words that can turn your world upside down, “I’m pregnant.” We know you’re struggling with the news as much as she is. You may be excited, frightened, or angry, but your emotions are every bit as valid as hers are. So, what’s your next step?
There’s help for you too
Are you asking yourself…
- “Is she really pregnant?”
- “Why wasn’t she more careful?”
- “What am I supposed to do now?”
- “Am I ready to be a dad?”
- “How will I support her?”
These questions are valid and you deserve answers. At the Open Arms Pregnancy Clinic, we can confirm she is really pregnant and help you both navigate the “what next?”
Your First Steps
Begin your journey at Open Arms. It’s important that you come to appointments with her. Open Arms will help you both understand your options so you can make a fully informed decision.
- No-cost confidential clinical pregnancy testing
- No-cost confidential ultrasound to confirm a viable pregnancy
- Discuss options and resources available
Your personal case manager
Whether this pregnancy was planned or not, you likely have concerns or questions about your options. Your case manager is here to help you. Even if you’re no longer together as a couple or you do not see a future together, you are both a part of the equation. Your voice matters.
Once a viable pregnancy is confirmed, you’ll want to learn about your options.
Maybe you want to be a father but didn’t plan to be so soon. Maybe circumstances aren’t ideal (are they ever?). Being a parent has its challenges but it can also be the most fulfilling and purpose-giving role imaginable. Even if you and the child’s mother are no longer together, you can still be an involved father. If you choose to parent or co-parent, Open Arms has resources for you like Essentials in Fatherhood.
In our Essentials in Fatherhood program, each lesson is simple, full of encouragement, and designed to help you be a good father. Some of the topics include spending time with family, role models, respect for mothers, being a leader…and more.
- The importance of spending real time with your family
- Role models
- Respect for Mothers
- Being a leader
- …and more
If you’re considering a medical or surgical abortion, there’s some important information to know as you make this decision. At Open Arms, we’re not an abortion provider, but we will provide you with all the information you need to make a fully informed choice.
If you don’t want her to have an abortion, speak up. Many of our patients have told us that if their partner wanted the baby, they would not have an abortion.
Choosing to make an adoption plan is hard, but also courageous. It means you and your partner are putting the needs of your child above your own. We have trusted adoption agency referrals to share with both of you.
One Final Thought
Regardless of what you want her to do, it’s ultimately your partner’s choice. But just because it’s her choice does not mean you don’t have a say. She needs to know your thoughts. You have a voice. If you would like help with this, Open Arms has men available to work with you. Schedule an appointment to speak with someone today. We’re here to help.